I need help with a girl

[Goncas]

Ok... I've made a search and I haven't find any similar thread, but if there's some, you could lock this one. >_< Hope it isn't a silly thread.

Anyways, there's a girl in my new class, and I like her. I barely talked to her, but I've developed a "feeling" for her... Yeah, I know it's impossible to be love, but I really feel, at least, something for that girl (I'll call her Maria... >_<), and I desire so~ much to, at least, know her a bit better.

I'll give a quick explanation of the current situacion:
->I'm shy... No, very shy...
->My best friend just told me he was in love with Maria... not truly "in love", but the same way I am. He knows I like her too.
->I'm a total noob with girls... Really...

What do you think I should do? >_<

[Manjisan]

Plot againsta your friend to make yourself look better in front of her. Then it should be easier for you to talk to her.

[negativzero]

for a start, you could try and sit beside her during lecutres or tutorials, and from there make an excuse to try and talk to her, like you have a question with something. the important thing is not to be shy and try to be as open as possible. thats how you talk to girls. just be sociable, but try not to be funny all the time. and about your friend, all i can say, is shes not taken yet, so anything goes. i know i'd backstab my friend if he was going after the same girl i liked. but its too late now, i already have a girlfriend.

[aznguy28]

well i am shy too..very...and im a noob with girls too...but they still like me...so lets see...ya tell one of ur frens to like help u make u look like a hero in frnt of her....or like make ur fren invite her to a party of just chillin, talkin...hangin around u know...n if those dont work...just go all out n tell her ur feelings...(note:easier said than done)

[Soul Slayer]

From a personal experience POV...the fact that your friend likes her and knows you like her too means you can't just sit there.

I had a friend do that to me recently and he won. Don't be complacent...if you want something or someone...you have to be decisive about it.

[Goncas]

for a start, you could try and sit beside her during lecutres or tutorials, and from there make an excuse to try and talk to her, like you have a question with something.

Humm... that won't work, because I'm the top, or at leat, one of the top students in my class (not that i'm bragging about that) and she isn't that good in classes...


I had a friend do that to me recently and he won. Don't be complacent...if you want something or someone...you have to be decisive about it.

Oh... You're right! The b****** just stabbed right now. He pretended to be Maria in a chat window, were we all use to be, and tricked me up, just to see if I was going to stab him. And then I took the ""chat" to the msn, with the girl, and I looked like a jork, because she didn't even know what I was talking about. I'm totally... >_<

[negativzero]

Humm... that won't work, because I'm the top, or at leat, one of the top students in my class (not that i'm bragging about that) and she isn't that good in classes...ok then now you can help her since she is not one of the better students, another reason to sit beside her~!

[SoulBerry]

lol, hold off on the party stuff until you get to know her well.. if you do it too quickly you'll probably be rejected ><. just be yourself, and first of all try to make friends with her as you would any other person. Think of her as a male friend.

after you get on speaking terms, which may take a few weeks, invite her to study or eat with you, just casually, like you do with friends. Now here's the thing: if you shows interest in you (in a bf kind of way) then you should recognize the signs and take it further by asking her on a date. If she doesn't show these signs, then you can take a chance and ask her anyway or ask the other 5 cute girls you've been befriending. Chances are you're attractive enough to attract at least one. Right? Right. Good luck.

[Goncas]

Oh... So many people trying to help!

Wel... Now, my "best friend" just... stabbed me. You know, he putted me, her, and him, in a msn conference, and then he just made me look like a fool, and now she probably knows that I like her... but I0m not sure of it. There are a lot of interpretations to the conversation we had. Now I'm wondering if I just should shut up and ignore the whole situacion, or, tomorrow, go after her, and ask her apologizes. Because it was a harsh discussion in msn. xD Yeah! Msn provides you the best fighting moments in net... >sigh< and she was in the middle of it.

I mean... Maybe she knows that I like her, and now, maybe, she will walk away.
Maybe she wondering what the hell was that discussion
Maybe she has just ignored all of the conversation.

I guess, if I gain courage, I'll go and apologise to her, tomorrow.

@SoulBerry_ That's what I'm triyng to do ^_^ But it's hard, because I can't be that impartial person... I mean, I feel that something for her.

Thank you all.

[ZangetsuResolve]

solution:Start hanging around girls more...not in the homosexual guy way but just hang around girls more. You'll tend to be a little bit more comfortable when approaching ladies.And in your situation your in right now...you got a 50% of actually hitting it off with this girl.due to the fact that u have not *hopefully* made a complete jerk of yourself in front of this Maria.And some girls like the shy kind of guys but my best bet is to just talk to her often. and as for your friend,throw him off a cliff :D problem solved

[dar]

manji is evil! but most guys are like that.. but judgong from what he did.. it's pay back time!

yea, you better hang around girls more.. honestly, i've never went out with girls til my 4th year in HS..[went to an all boys private school and WAS a shy boy..>_<] but i started really hanging around them when i went to college..:D don't be scared of them.. they won't bite... well not all of them [examines bite marks on arms]..:D

[ZangetsuResolve]

manji is evil! but most guys are like that.. but judgong from what he did.. it's pay back time!

yea, you better hang around girls more.. honestly, i've never went out with girls til my 4th year in HS..[went to an all boys private school and WAS a shy boy..>_<] but i started really hanging around them when i went to college..:D don't be scared of them.. they won't bite... well not all of them..:D lmao man i would kill myself if i went to a all boys private school! I started going out during my 8th grade year since i basically dipped and dodged the opprotunity to attend private schools...*dreads uniforms :eek:* But back to the point i wouldnt say change who you are but u have to have two kinds of attitudes: One for when u hang around the guys,and one for the females. Last thing a women likes is a male pig so dont say stuff like get this and that for me or you'll end up lonely for 1 million years!!! *puts pinky at mouth* muhahahahaha

[dar]

yep.. you can't imagine how awkward it was for me when i went to college..
"Girls are in my class! Oh no! *panics* What should I do???"

[ZangetsuResolve]

yep.. you can't imagine how awkward it was for me when i went to college..
"Girls are in my class! Oh no! *panics* What should I do???"
lol 2 words about the expression on your face...kodak moment

[Koohyuko]

I have the exact same problem, minus the whole friend-likes-same-girl thing. So here's what I say. Excuses. Excuses work great. Use them to your advantage. If she gets her hair cut differently, make sure to compliment it. Don't worry about looking like an idiot. I made(and still make) that mistake. Most girls don't care if you look like an idiot if you give it your best shot. And find common ground with her. If you're both good in school, discuss work. If you both are bad, complain together. If she's good and you aren't, ask questions.

[ZangetsuResolve]

and always keep good hygene cuz honestly i dont care how much game you have....if u smell like 3 month old eggs you got no shot in heck

[Goncas]

and always keep good hygene cuz honestly i dont care how much game you have....if u smell like 3 month old eggs you got no shot in heck

Nice tip. XD I'll try to keep that in mind.

And I got great news! She is "sms-ing" me! She asked me about the Portuguese homeworks... I know it's not a big deal, but it's something, and now I guess she doesn't care about the discussion, so I won't have to apologize to her about this no more!

Really... I wasn't waiting for a sms from her... At least, she now knows that I exist. x) Guess tomorrow I'll try to talk to her, and her friends a bit more.

[Calexus]

Run up to her and punch her in the gut...

[ZangetsuResolve]

Nice tip. XD I'll try to keep that in mind.

And I got great news! She is "sms-ing" me! She asked me about the Portuguese homeworks... I know it's not a big deal, but it's something, and now I guess she doesn't care about the discussion, so I won't have to apologize to her about this no more!

Really... I wasn't waiting for a sms from her... At least, she now knows that I exist. x) Guess tomorrow I'll try to talk to her, and her friends a bit more.
thats the right thinking there...grab life by the horns and ride that sucker till its tired. lol a post back of what happens would be most excellent :D anyways good luck to ya matey

[dar]

Nice tip. XD I'll try to keep that in mind.

And I got great news! She is "sms-ing" me! She asked me about the Portuguese homeworks... I know it's not a big deal, but it's something, and now I guess she doesn't care about the discussion, so I won't have to apologize to her about this no more!

Really... I wasn't waiting for a sms from her... At least, she now knows that I exist. x) Guess tomorrow I'll try to talk to her, and her friends a bit more.

that's something to start with..:D mine started like that, and we ended up as close friends..:D Good luck!;p

[Koohyuko]

Congradulation! That's a key step. You've essentially broken the ice!

[dar]

well he hasn't erally broken it yet but it a step to breaking it.;) what happens next is up to you.. if you decide to be shy, nothing will happen.. if you decide to go ahead, some things might change..:D

[smidglet]

honestly you are on the right track.....girls like guys who aren't afraid to ask. another thing she may already be interested if she's asking you for help. about your "friend", that has probably blown up in his face as alot of girls don't like it when friends bad mouth other friends (unless they are total ***chs). just don't be afraid to offer help, we're suckers for kindness :)

[jewlreya]

Goncas, seems like mostly the guys gave you their opinions. Here's one from a girl.

Hmm..first, she may or may not realised that you actually like her and if she does, she obviously should know that your friend likes her too. But with your stupid friend backstabbing you, you have to show Maria that you are all the nice good gentleman, settling things with you stupid friend in a calm matter instead of backstabbing. Talk to her a lot, everyday, as long as possible. Of course on some topic that will interest her. Don't bored her by saying the same old stuff over and over again.

Step forward and throw your shyness into the sea. It will not get you anywhere. Girls actually lke guys who are more open, outgoing, a little naughty with silly jokes at times. People that will teased her but don't go over board on that, otherwise it will all backfire.

Then, take her out for movies or lunch/dinner (which ever you like), just start on normal convo, like friends/family and then go more about yourself. If she starts telling you more about herself, that's a good sign. :)

[Yoshitsune]

always, always use language to your advantage
portugese homework? i guessed right.

just help her with homework, and eventually just get closer to her by way of the language, you practice saying silly phrases, (but i know you know portugese already judging by your intro), so she prob knows less. You can be her tutor, and after school, you can hang out with her. treat her like a friend, then get closer that she tells you things. That's a good step, from there, you can get to know her more in depth and take her on dates :)

[Zangetsu_san]

another thing in the love there is not such thing as friend o brother

[dar]

another thing in the love there is not such thing as friend o brother
true.. but it doesn't work for me i'm afraid.. I always give the chance away.. *sighs*

anyways, you've heard what the girls have to say so go for it..:D expect more from others tom..:D

[jewlreya]

It's hard to say. Guys can really stab each other when it comes to a girl.

I have a pair of guy classmates who are like that. They were like stabbing each other when they know they like the same girl. In the end, poor girl. That was me. >.<

[dar]

poor jewl.. being caught in the middle is tough..

well, in my case we had a compromise.. we couldn't afford an arguement between the two of us so we decided to stop.
he's my best friend and band mate afterall...

[Yoshitsune]

guys are so savage..sheesh..even male animals battle for a girl...

[jewlreya]

I don't know why guys can stab each other when they are the best mates. And then, after that they still have to be friends and see each other in the same class for the next 3yrs. Isn't that going to be weird?

For my case that time, the guy who chipped in later jolly well know his friend was interested in me, and then he secretly came over and start chatting with me, asked how I felt about the other guy and things like that. Then, he kept the whole thing a secret and never brought it up to his friend at all.

When we go out for movie together, he just pretended he wasn't interested and kept pushing the guy to me. Then when it comes to going home, cos the other guy lives real far away. He would offer to send me home and then throughout the train journey, he would be flirting >.<

Horrible guy!!!

[Ramza]

poor jewl.. being caught in the middle is tough..

well, in my case we had a compromise.. we couldn't afford an arguement between the two of us so we decided to stop.
he's my best friend and band mate afterall...

lol
but then...u gotta be attractive to be caught in the middle :o
and thats a good thing in a way...

lol im learning so much from this :P
ill remember these tips if i want a gf :D

[jewlreya]

lol
but then...u gotta be attractive to be caught in the middle :o
and thats a good thing in a way...

lol im learning so much from this :P
ill remember these tips if i want a gf :D
Seriously it's not fun at all. You will be tear apart!!! :eek:
The thing about them is that, perhaps both of them are from boy schools *no offence to boys school guys, it only applies to some), they think too much and when they entered a school with girls, they get too fancinated >.<

In the end, both are rejected. It's weird, we three are from the same class.

[Dr. Impz]

Well, for me, even though i am a bad example...do these

1. Once in a while, every two days or so, just send a message, via msn or sms or whatever to see if the girl is well. Don't send too much, as it might get way too aggressive and make the girl repulsive toward you...(which i often do and learning to curb)

2. Try to be as nice to the girl as you can. If you tend to like to tease girls a lot, try to curb it down. DON'T EVER USE VULGARITIES WITH GIRLS...it's a no no, even though it's not intended..Try to speak politely, but u can try some jokes too.

3. Do not self depreciate urself too much. Have confidence. I know i am not the best advisor for this because most of the forum members know i am pretty self depreciating but i am improving now quite a bit and learning to impress the girl that i like.

4. Invite her out, buy her some small gifts, try to know what she likes. Aka try to know everything about her. U would know u are doing the right thing when she starts telling you her birthday, her past, some of her past times and the likes. So at least u can build on something right?

5. Learn to control and not be overly excited. I am a major person who did that all the while. Don't rush it...ok?

6. Take the courage to talk. Because if u dont, u will not even know whether the girl ever likes you. Even if eventually nothing works out that well, at least u know u did try right...And u can always continue working to get her heart...it's important to >_<

Well, i will learn to take the advice that i gave myself...and i hope u get it too.

[Ramza]

Seriously it's not fun at all. You will be tear apart!!! :eek:
The thing about them is that, perhaps both of them are from boy schools *no offence to boys school guys, it only applies to some), they think too much and when they entered a school with girls, they get too fancinated >.<

In the end, both are rejected. It's weird, we three are from the same class.

lol guess u have to blame urself for being too attractive lol

[jewlreya]

lol guess u have to blame urself for being too attractive lol
No.. I'm gonna push the blame to the guys. Bwahahahaha~ In fact, I didn't even talked to them when school started and everyone is a freshman in school. They started it - their fault. I believe I have never gave them the impression that I like them.

[Ramza]

then tell them to go away....
cuz u are too attractive for them :P

[Kikintae]

Well, for me, even though i am a bad example...do these

1. Once in a while, every two days or so, just send a message, via msn or sms or whatever to see if the girl is well. Don't send too much, as it might get way too aggressive and make the girl repulsive toward you...(which i often do and learning to curb)

2. Try to be as nice to the girl as you can. If you tend to like to tease girls a lot, try to curb it down. DON'T EVER USE VULGARITIES WITH GIRLS...it's a no no, even though it's not intended..Try to speak politely, but u can try some jokes too.

3. Do not self depreciate urself too much. Have confidence. I know i am not the best advisor for this because most of the forum members know i am pretty self depreciating but i am improving now quite a bit and learning to impress the girl that i like.

4. Invite her out, buy her some small gifts, try to know what she likes. Aka try to know everything about her. U would know u are doing the right thing when she starts telling you her birthday, her past, some of her past times and the likes. So at least u can build on something right?

5. Learn to control and not be overly excited. I am a major person who did that all the while. Don't rush it...ok?

6. Take the courage to talk. Because if u dont, u will not even know whether the girl ever likes you. Even if eventually nothing works out that well, at least u know u did try right...And u can always continue working to get her heart...it's important to >_<

Well, i will learn to take the advice that i gave myself...and i hope u get it too.

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It scares me to see a list like this lol. It makes us girls look like preys or something....

*smacks impz*

Anyway, my advice is just to be natural, I'm sure this has been said a million times already. But really though, don't make this into a competition between you and your friend just because he's been backstabbing you. Just be natural with the girl or else you'll scare her away. Do talk to her..but if you find that you have nothing to say, then don't push it either...move onto another girl. Though if you guys really hit it off, then she'll like you eventually...

[PINOY]

This looks like a job for Hitch! :D

hmm...just be yourself, ask her something or say something funny to break the ice. After that you can talk to her all ya want!

[Dr. Impz]

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It scares me to see a list like this lol. It makes us girls look like preys or something....

*smacks impz*

Anyway, my advice is just to be natural, I'm sure this has been said a million times already. But really though, don't make this into a competition between you and your friend just because he's been backstabbing you. Just be natural with the girl or else you'll scare her away. Do talk to her..but if you find that you have nothing to say, then don't push it either...move onto another girl. Though if you guys really hit it off, then she'll like you eventually...

T_T...why smack me...in general, that just means be natural ^^

[jewlreya]

Cos Impz you really made it sound like hunting some prey.

[Dr. Impz]

really...sorry then, wasn't intended to...was just some pointers that most guys make mistakes upon.....>_<

[smidglet]

wait but I though he already had the girl talking to him using homework :confused:

as far as I remember once you get your foot in and start talking it usually continues from there. (sadly it's been awhile since I had a bf)

[speedphantom]

In my maths class there is this girl I like but I don't have all that much to talk about. What are some possible convo topics?

[smidglet]

start with hi.....see how she responds then ask something general like about math homework or something

I know it sounds dull but it's sometimes just the "hi" that works

[Dr. Impz]

In my maths class there is this girl I like but I don't have all that much to talk about. What are some possible convo topics?

ermmm...*wears bulletproof jacket in order to protect himself*

1. Talk to her about the previous class. ask her the homework and maybe ask her if she has any problems (if she's weak) or ask her to help (if she's strong)..

2. Maybe ask people that are around her when she does...>_<

No idea actually, i am very bad at chasing gals...T_T

[smidglet]

impzie you really have a plan at getting girls *impressed*

[Desken]

Try to start an argument and let her do the talking and act as if you're really intrested...like really!

[Dr. Impz]

impzie you really have a plan at getting girls *impressed*

well, i am telling people what i didn't do...aka i did all the wrong things all the time...sigh >_<

And i am quite shy when it comes to girls...i am just someone who can say stuff but never can do that well >_<

[jewlreya]

Impz sound as if he is taking girls like objects! *cries for the girls*

Cry for myself too. Anyway, anyone has ways of ditching people in rl?
(of course I love my Lazy...*lalalalala*)
I just had to get some trouble off with guys >.<

[aznguy28]

well dude...i had a crush in my sisters fren....and she found out cause my sis couldnt shut up...but ya now we talk and we are good frens...i habnt had the guts to ask her out yet...hehe

[dar]

should we dub impz as an expert on this??:D

anyway, the topics are really endless.. you can jump from one thing to another without realizing it.. but first you should start the convo first..:D and smile, you dont want to give the wrong impression.. it happened to me, she didn't talk to me all day.. *sighs* at least she accepted my apology..:D

[aznguy28]

oh yay good for you:D...well u got lucky:D well man dont lose hope like i did....the girl i like is a good fren of mine now...but im too chicken to ask her out...**** FOOL

[jewlreya]

You can always de-chicken yourself! :D Pluck out your feathers, no I mean courage!

[garouga]

Plot againsta your friend to make yourself look better in front of her. Then it should be easier for you to talk to her.

I agree with this guy;) Spread embarassing rumors about your friend

[Desken]

If you don't even try to ask her out it means you arent intrested in her enough


:p If you feel like you need affection get a dog

[Kikintae]

Impz sound as if he is taking girls like objects! *cries for the girls*

Cry for myself too. Anyway, anyone has ways of ditching people in rl?
(of course I love my Lazy...*lalalalala*)
I just had to get some trouble off with guys >.<

Sure, just tell them that you're a rainbow la la la la. xD (thanks choco!)

Seriously, just ignore them. Though if they're your friends, then tell it to them straight. Don't beat around the bush.

[aznguy28]

well no i reallyyy like her...oh well maybe ill ask her...or maybe somewhere inside me i hab inferior complex...*gasp* darn

[Dr. Impz]

well no i reallyyy like her...oh well maybe ill ask her...or maybe somewhere inside me i hab inferior complex...*gasp* darn

hahaha...inferior complex...i suffer supremely from it....

but trust me, talk to more of the BF members more, u feel superior complex somewhat...Well, i am a successful case somewhat ^_^


Impz sound as if he is taking girls like objects! *cries for the girls*

Cry for myself too. Anyway, anyone has ways of ditching people in rl?
(of course I love my Lazy...*lalalalala*)
I just had to get some trouble off with guys >.<

i am not >_<....why...fine, i won't give any advice anymore then...i was speaking to how i actually stumble....and hence wish that others won't follow my example of doing all the wrong stuff @_@

[aznguy28]

ok kool thx impz...is all kool now...yes actually i am suffering frm I.complex..wel ill try to get over myself thinking of me as some ugly s h i t lying on the ground ...WOOT :D

[Eurasian]

hahaha...inferior complex...i suffer supremely from it....

but trust me, talk to more of the BF members more, u feel superior complex somewhat...Well, i am a successful case somewhat ^_^
=OOO that's mean >.<

[Dr. Impz]

=OOO that's mean >.<

no no, i mean they will keep saying u are nice, fun, lovely, cute and so much...that ur ego will really increase..

bleh, i should have elaborated more T_T

[Eurasian]

ohhhhhhhh haha ok ok i get it!! bleh sorry for the misunderstanding XD *heart impz*

[dar]

no no, i mean they will keep saying u are nice, fun, lovely, cute and so much...that ur ego will really increase..

bleh, i should have elaborated more T_T
*smacks impz*

what ego?

[Goncas]

I'm back from school! =)

Ok... I've tried to talk to her, and I haven't got a big sucess, but it wasn't bad either.

In one of ours classes, we had to do a work, and Maria and her friend were having some trouble with that... I've tried to helped, and sometimes I said some... humm... kinda jokes. And she laughed a bit.

And, during the all day, we talked a bit... Not too much. But it was a progress, I think. And I'm triyng to be somewhat confident. And her, and her friends were having fun, fighting for some cookies =DD I was near, and I joined the fun... xD And I stole from her a cookie xD But we were having fun. laughing and stuff. Yeah, I know it was a silly way of having fun but... Well, maybe tomorrow I'll tell her, with a kind smile (^^") that I haven't forgot that I hold her one... and that I'm going to pay her lunch, or something like that. I'm not sure of it, yet...

And there is some other things... Tomorrow we will go out, about ten persons... I don't know if I'll be able to go, but I guess it will be a good chance to get close to her. But... I'm almost sure I won't be able to go... and my friend will go. >_<

Oh... and in portuguese class the teacher showed a poem that I had to do to the whole class... And the poem was great xD And everyone was just "wooo", including her! Was that a good thing? .__.

[dar]

do whatever it takes to go, dude! i'd break a couple of rules if i were you..:D

[pheonixfire]

I know that this will sound cliche, but be yourself. If you try to act other than you are and you get her, what is to say that the relationship will work out. Find something that she is interested that you don't know too much about and try asking her about it. People just love talking about themselves and there interests...Or try to find something that both of you share in common, a mean teacher, fave band etc....this can be your icebreaker. And if you don't want to do any of these things, then just smile. A warn smile is an invitation for love and the like. If you really are too shy make small talk, there is always the possiblity that she may see you smiling and having fun with other ppl and that may just spark an interest. Good Luck!!! *keeping fingers crossed* :D

Edit: I didn't read the whole way through when I posted, so if someone already said something that I just did, then just dismiss it....Still wishing good luck. Kids in love are so cute!

[DEATHGOD1]

I'm back from school! =)

Ok... I've tried to talk to her.......Was that a good thing? .__.

Hey if it works :D She may like the poetic types. Just act normal :D



On a side note if it dont work out try one of her friends ;) :p

[dar]

Hey if it works :D She may like the poetic types. Just act normal :D



On a side note if it dont work out try one of her friends ;) :p

lol i know a guy who's like that..

[DEATHGOD1]

lol i know a guy who's like that..

me too hes had many girlfriends and they end up dumping him all the time so i would not do that :/

[smidglet]

Dg that's evil *giggles* though can't say it's a bad idea

[Koohyuko]

I'm back from school! =)

Ok... I've tried to talk to her, and I haven't got a big sucess, but it wasn't bad either.

In one of ours classes, we had to do a work, and Maria and her friend were having some trouble with that... I've tried to helped, and sometimes I said some... humm... kinda jokes. And she laughed a bit.

And, during the all day, we talked a bit... Not too much. But it was a progress, I think. And I'm triyng to be somewhat confident. And her, and her friends were having fun, fighting for some cookies =DD I was near, and I joined the fun... xD And I stole from her a cookie xD But we were having fun. laughing and stuff. Yeah, I know it was a silly way of having fun but... Well, maybe tomorrow I'll tell her, with a kind smile (^^") that I haven't forgot that I hold her one... and that I'm going to pay her lunch, or something like that. I'm not sure of it, yet...

And there is some other things... Tomorrow we will go out, about ten persons... I don't know if I'll be able to go, but I guess it will be a good chance to get close to her. But... I'm almost sure I won't be able to go... and my friend will go. >_<

Oh... and in portuguese class the teacher showed a poem that I had to do to the whole class... And the poem was great xD And everyone was just "wooo", including her! Was that a good thing? .__.


Excellent work! Progress is good. And yes, be confident! I for one am not that confident, and it causes messes for me.

[Goncas]

Oh, oh, oh... >_< I just noticed on thing about her: her birthday is... in 20 days +/-. >_< I really don't know her that well, but i want to do something in her birthday but... what? x_X It's hard, since I'm not really "Her friend". >_<

[Koohyuko]

Try to get her a gift or something. Its not hard to find out what she likes from her friends. Then you can surprise her with a gift!

[Shikage]

Personally i never know what to get even my best friends.

So i always take them out shopping.

Its an easy way to get them something they would like and you get to enjoy there company, which in your case would be perfect.

Just go up to her and say you know its her birthday and you don't know what to get her so would she like to go out shopping with you and pick something.

Its not a date because its shopping. You will find out if shes a nice girl or not (if she asks you to buy the most expensive thing she sees then she's definatly not the girl you want to be with). And it will give you some time to talk to her.

[Soul Slayer]

Although Shikage's idea is a good one...my best friend hates it when guys do that to her...so umm...please be careful. It's important to get a feel for the girl's personality and ways of thinking. Not all girls are girly-girls or tomboys at sight...

[jewlreya]

I'm back from school! =)

Ok... I've tried to talk to her, and I haven't got a big sucess, but it wasn't bad either.

In one of ours classes, we had to do a work, and Maria and her friend were having some trouble with that... I've tried to helped, and sometimes I said some... humm... kinda jokes. And she laughed a bit.

And, during the all day, we talked a bit... Not too much. But it was a progress, I think. And I'm triyng to be somewhat confident. And her, and her friends were having fun, fighting for some cookies =DD I was near, and I joined the fun... xD And I stole from her a cookie xD But we were having fun. laughing and stuff. Yeah, I know it was a silly way of having fun but... Well, maybe tomorrow I'll tell her, with a kind smile (^^") that I haven't forgot that I hold her one... and that I'm going to pay her lunch, or something like that. I'm not sure of it, yet...

And there is some other things... Tomorrow we will go out, about ten persons... I don't know if I'll be able to go, but I guess it will be a good chance to get close to her. But... I'm almost sure I won't be able to go... and my friend will go. >_<

Oh... and in portuguese class the teacher showed a poem that I had to do to the whole class... And the poem was great xD And everyone was just "wooo", including her! Was that a good thing? .__.
GO, NO MATTER WHAT. You friend will backstab you without you around. And it's dangerous. You never know what will happen.

And get her some present. It's always nice to have surprise, don't worry about the part whether you are her close friends or not. Just do it. :D

[Dr. Impz]

GO, NO MATTER WHAT. You friend will backstab you without you around. And it's dangerous. You never know what will happen.

And get her some present. It's always nice to have surprise, don't worry about the part whether you are her close friends or not. Just do it. :D

yes...that is very true. Try to give her a little gift or present sometimes. It does not even have to be a physical thing. Even a short message or something to encourage her is good ^^....

But don't deceive her or anything and try to give her the wrong ideas...

[ichigo123]

Ok... I've made a search and I haven't find any similar thread, but if there's some, you could lock this one. >_< Hope it isn't a silly thread.

Anyways, there's a girl in my new class, and I like her. I barely talked to her, but I've developed a "feeling" for her... Yeah, I know it's impossible to be love, but I really feel, at least, something for that girl (I'll call her Maria... >_<), and I desire so~ much to, at least, know her a bit better.

I'll give a quick explanation of the current situacion:
->I'm shy... No, very shy...
->My best friend just told me he was in love with Maria... not truly "in love", but the same way I am. He knows I like her too.
->I'm a total noob with girls... Really...

What do you think I should do? >_<


same happened to me, me and my friend dig this girl, but I told him about out, I gave him this monumental explenation, and now Im planning to sing a song for her, I have known her for a yer, but since your "maria" is new, then talk to her, try to make friends with her, say "hi" at least everyday or so, that way she will know your alive, ask her if she needs help with any subjects, etc, that way you can mov eonto other conversations, just dont go to much into the friendships cause she will want to have a brother x sister type of relationship and that aint good.

[ZangetsuResolve]

I'm back from school! =)

Ok... I've tried to talk to her, and I haven't got a big sucess, but it wasn't bad either.

In one of ours classes, we had to do a work, and Maria and her friend were having some trouble with that... I've tried to helped, and sometimes I said some... humm... kinda jokes. And she laughed a bit.

And, during the all day, we talked a bit... Not too much. But it was a progress, I think. And I'm triyng to be somewhat confident. And her, and her friends were having fun, fighting for some cookies =DD I was near, and I joined the fun... xD And I stole from her a cookie xD But we were having fun. laughing and stuff. Yeah, I know it was a silly way of having fun but... Well, maybe tomorrow I'll tell her, with a kind smile (^^") that I haven't forgot that I hold her one... and that I'm going to pay her lunch, or something like that. I'm not sure of it, yet...

And there is some other things... Tomorrow we will go out, about ten persons... I don't know if I'll be able to go, but I guess it will be a good chance to get close to her. But... I'm almost sure I won't be able to go... and my friend will go. >_<

Oh... and in portuguese class the teacher showed a poem that I had to do to the whole class... And the poem was great xD And everyone was just "wooo", including her! Was that a good thing? .__. excellent 2 thumbs up on the way you handle things....whatever is getting in your way of making it out tomorrow unless it is a serious family matter u may want to reschedule that.I thought the cookie bit was kind of funny just one thing... if your not in a true relationship i would not overboard to spoiling method, paying for her next lunch is cool but try to slide that in on a day she may forget her lunch money. One thing that i have seen is girls *not all just very very very little* tend to abuse the kindness of guys like you by only acting nice and etc just so u can do things and get stuff for em. make the right decision to slide in something like that in a appropriate situation. seriously thought about this "friend" I wouldnt say confront him and say he is a total jack*** for backstabbing you but dont even worry about what he says like my dad always says "If you did not do anything wrong,then you have nothing to worry about." to me he is acting very childish and like a little jealous schoolboy i say dump the dope and go for the girl.....easy to get guy friends and have a cool friendship but when it comes to relationships...having someone like him is only a downer.

[Soul Slayer]

Good Goncas...seems like its helping...so lets give this thread a go http://www.bleachforums.com/showthread.php?t=8095

This way we can have one DATING thread to solve all our problems...

[yume]

just to let you know
i posted my reply for you here, right at the first pg...hehe:D
http://www.bleachforums.com/showthread.php?p=276610&posted=1#post276610